Teenage girls are at a pivotal stage in life when their identities, values and futures are being shaped. It is crucial that the language and messages they receive are filled with hope, strength and empowerment. According to Victoria Kar, a holistic psychologist and celebrity coach, one of the greatest gifts we can give our teens is to say, “The world needs what you have to offer, exactly as you are. Embrace your story, your voice and your journey.”

“While external validation like praise and approval can feel rewarding in the moment, it is self-awareness and confidence that create lasting fulfillment,” Kar explains. “As we fill our teens’ minds with nurturing words, we need to remind them that confidence isn’t about being perfect; it’s about trusting ourselves, embracing growth and standing firm in what we believe in.”

There are innumerable examples of young women that have shaped their own paths, from Malala Yousafzai’s courageous advocacy for girls’ education to Billie Eilish’s unapologetic uniqueness in the music industry. These women redefine success on their own terms, demonstrating that individuality is something to be celebrated. To empower young women, we must create nurturing environments that foster their development.

 

A Supportive Environment

According to Yasmine Saad, Ph.D., a licensed clinical psychologist in New York City, one of the most important things parents can do for their teenagers is to acknowledge their talents and strengths and reflect those qualities in them. It is vital for parents and guardians to align their goals with their children’s natural inclinations.

“For example, if your teen values quality time together, offer to help with cleaning chores, creating an opportunity to connect,” says Saad. “Building a supportive and nurturing environment is essential for helping young teens thrive. Encouraging open dialogue about struggles, dreams and aspirations helps build trust and confidence. When our teen feels heard and accepted, they’re more likely to embrace their true selves and take bold steps toward their dreams.”

 

Mindful Social Media

Social media can be a double-edged sword, serving as a tool for connection, as well as a source of anxiety. To help teens mindfully navigate their online activities, we need to reduce the pressure they might be feeling to conform to societal norms. Saad recommends that parents encourage their teens to curate a positive social media feed that inspires, uplifts and supports their well-being.

“The best way to teach our teens healthy ways of using social media is to model it,” Saad remarks. “Being mindful of our own social media usage and reflecting that to our teen is best. Also, instead of limiting their usage, it is more beneficial to focus on what our teens value. For example, if you and your teen value family time at dinner, you might say something like, ‘I really want us to have an intimate conversation, and we can’t do that with our phones on.’”

 

Unstructured Time

Teens often feel overwhelmed by packed schedules filled with academic, extracurricular and social expectations. To relieve this tension, encourage them to prioritize time for enjoyable activities such as spending time in nature, drawing, dancing or simply relaxing with friends.

“Our teens will do what they value,” explains Saad. “By understanding their values as parents, we can meet them where they are and find ways to have unstructured fun together to explore creativity, build resilience and experience joy without the pressure of productivity.”

 

Emotional Self-Care

Self-care goes beyond bubble baths and face masks; it is about nurturing mental health, emotional well-being and overall balance. Teens need to understand that rest, reflection and time for themselves are necessary for long-term happiness and success. Saad suggests, “Find fun ways to nurture well-being together. This not only supports our teen’s mental health but also fosters deep connections and feelings of safety.”

 

Beyond Compare

In an era of constant comparison, especially via social media, teen girls can feel pressured to measure up to others. This competitive culture fuels feelings of inadequacy and insecurity. “By focusing on progress rather than flawless outcomes, our teen can develop self-assurance, creativity and the motivation to keep striving,” Kar advises. “We can approach challenges as learning opportunities, reminding ourselves and our teen to approach life through the lens of progress, not perfection. Perfection is a myth; progress is an achievable goal.”

“Our children are here to help us evolve as human beings in the world; therefore, nurturing their health and well-being is a two-way street,” observes Saad. “Let’s inspire them to define joy, success and happiness on their own terms, as we do the same for ourselves. In a world that constantly asks us all to measure up, we can help our teens realize that true worth is not found in a checklist, but in the beautiful, ever-evolving story of who we are.”

 

Christina Connors is a writer, singer and creator of a YouTube series for children. Learn more at ChristinaConnors.com/kids-corner

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