Resilience has been held up as the ultimate key to weathering life’s challenges. Defined as the capacity to cope with hard things, Dr. Tasha Eurich argues this misguided conception in her new book, Shatterproof: How to Thrive in a World of Constant Chaos (And Why Resilience Alone Isn’t Enough). She reveals that resilience has limits. Enduring hardship after hardship without replenishment can leave you brittle, empty and stuck in survival mode.

Dr. Eurich explains that resilience without reflection or restoration eventually hits what she calls the “resiliency ceiling”. Once that threshold is achieved, a multitude of reactions can occur from outbursts to implosions. Breaking through the resiliency ceiling always comes at a cost—often to health, relationships and even sense of self.

There’s a better way. By weaving self-care strategies into daily routines as non-negotiables, it establishes a more robust foundation for resilience. Some effective self-care strategies include speaking kindly to oneself in thought; caring for the body, mind and spirit; setting realistic goals and allowing others to carry their responsibilities. True strength isn’t just surviving the storm; it’s knowing how to restore oneself to a thriving life after it.

Taylor Chudy is a certified life coach and the founder of Heal Through Growth Mindset Coaching. For more information or to connect with Taylor, email [email protected] or visit HealThroughGrowth.com.